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What's going on y'all? So I'm talking about having so I'm talking about having ADHD and how it causes my mind to take my time whenever I'm talking. When I was doing a live stream just earlier today, the topic came up about I feel like this person was poking at me because of because of me being me. Because they're just bullies, right? They're either bullies or they're they're trying to social police, whatever the case might be. Um, but the topic, he mentioned something about my speech. The comment was like, say what you're saying, but say it better. I was like, bro, I was like, and in my mind, I'm like, I'm trying to say it as best as I can, you know. And it's like comments like that, where people want you to be self-conscious about yourself, about how you talk, your speech, whatever, all that stuff. And I think it's a form of social policing. It made me it made me think about social policing and how people want to put you in a box, they make you, they want you to be self-conscious about yourself, about your abilities, all this stuff. And it to even to this day, like it sometimes it'll want to creep up into my head like, well, maybe I knew need to talk better, or maybe maybe my speech sucks, whatever, this and that. My speech is not good. And you know, granted, I feel I do feel like that, you know what I mean. Um and I do try my best to train to to to communicate, you know what I mean? But I I I I think that it just gets better with time, it just gets better with how I say stuff. Um, and I think it's because of the way my brain functions. I don't, I mean, like even now I'm thinking about it, I'm like, damn, am I being self-conscious about it? But it was on a live stream, you know what I mean? And I felt like this person was poking at me, trying to, you know, because I'm an easy target, bro. People with ADHD, we're easy targets. It's no secret. We're bullied a lot in in school, uh, because we're quote unquote slow to the normal person. Our brain is wired differently, and we're just easy targets, bro. We're easy, you know, we have sensory, sensory. I could be a little bit on the autistic spectrum as well, maybe like Audi HD, neurodiversity, right? To where, you know, flashing lights mess with me, certain sounds mess with me, you know what I mean? And people know that people grow up with people around people like me, and they pick on us, you know. And this person was doing it on a live stream, and I was doing a live stream for my podcast, the Corpus Christi Originals Podcast, and I was not letting it get to me. I'm very proud of myself because I turned it into a teachable moment for my audience. Like showing them, look, look, there's gonna be people like this in life. There's gonna be people trying to put you in that box, social police you, tell you how to do things without asking for their advice, um, so that they somehow can feel like the winner. I don't understand why people are like that. But but it was a teachable moment, like like kind of like I'm teaching y'all about it right now, like social policing, people being uh want wanting you to think self-consciously about your your abilities and stuff like that. And people like like you and I that are ADD, ADHD, on the no diverse, we have to deal with stuff like that. We have to deal with people poking at us, making fun of us in creative situations. Doing this pot doing a podcast. Uh it's in like stand-up comedy, like I'm I'm in uh you know a new scene of stand-up comedy where there's people like that. So it's just uh and I think that I feel like a lot of non-diverse people like me that are ADHD, we don't like to deal with those situations, so we get to a point where we don't want to be around people and we just want to be home all the time and go to work and go home and stuff like that. But when you're creative, when it's hard to not be create a creative, we find that we have to be in those social situations. Um, which I think helps develop character, it helps develop your character to learn how to be creative in front of those types of people being creative in front of those types of people takes a certain amount of of bravery, courage, and courage. And it's not something to be taken lightly because it's a huge win for us. It's a huge win for people like me because we're we have to go against we gotta go against the grain. We have to be salt and life of the earth, a city on a hill, a lamp city on a hill, and in a in a world that is different, it in a world that accepts people that are the norm rather than people that are not the norm. Um and just going against the grain and and saying no to those people, setting boundaries and turning it into a situation to where it builds character is huge for my community, for people like me. Um and I always come back to this to where like do it in front of them anyway, they're gonna be there, and I've always heard and I've heard this advice like from my dad. Like, they're gonna be there anyway, they're always they're gonna make fun of you anyway, those types of people. And now I'm learning to channel my focus like I did on that live stream, to the people that are actually listening, to the actual audience, to direct the teachable moment to them to learn how to not focus on the naysayer, but to focus on the people that are there to listen to me. And that's a huge win for me. Because before I would let it get in my head, and I would let that person, their comments plague me. Uh now it's just let it roll off, you know what I mean? Just let it roll off. And that's difficult to do for a person like me, but when we get to that point where we can just let it just let it go and maybe turn it into something that something good, like a teachable, like a moment that I'm sharing with you guys right now, that's huge. That's huge for me. Um, and I think it's something we can learn from as far as being nerdovers, ADD, ADHD, you know, OCD, whatever type of DSM diagnosis that we have, uh, we can still live in society and be functional. Like, it makes me think about the successful entrepreneurs, business people that are like us. Like, how I'm sure they went through all kinds of trials, tribulations regarding the type of person that they are. But I want to say they did it anyway. They did it in front of those people that were the naysayers, they did it in front of those people that were like, nah, you should do it this way instead, it's not gonna work that way. Whatever. Um, so it's a huge win to be able to do do that type of stuff. Um and as far as like speech goes and how to talk, I think the more I the more I do this, the the more I learn how to communicate. And the podcast that I do have called the Corpus Christi Originals Podcast, I'm learning how to further my communication skills and talking to people and asking questions, and I notice that I absorb a lot of information. I don't really say much, I just ask questions to where people share stuff with me. Uh and just being able to verbalize my thoughts, it takes time, it takes it takes effort, like because I have to draw from memory, I have to draw from words that I know, communication tactics that I know. So listening to podcasts helps. Uh, listening to books uh helps, just speaking in general, in passing, talking about the weather, even though that's like difficult for people like me, because I want to do a deep dive right away. Uh like I was at work today, and the operator, I I mentioned like I mentioned like some weather today. And a lot of people they just want to stay at that level, they don't want to go dive deep, they just want to stay at the weather. So I gotta learn how to talk about the weather. Even though it's not some I I want to go deeper than that, my brain is like, ugh, like don't like I'm trying to tell my brain, like, don't go there, you know what I mean? Just talk about the weather, keep it surface level. But when I do find those people that um want to take the deep dive, it's it's we have amazing conversations, and they're usually people like us, like me. ADHD, neurodivers. Um, sorry, looking at the time there. Uh well, one of these days I'll get it together. Uh yeah, it makes it. I mean, it's I'm a work in progress, and I'm I'm I'm proud of at how far I've come up to this point, and how much further I can go, and which potential I might have. Because people like that commenter, they can tell me all day long what they want me to do. They can tell me talk like this, dress like this, cut your hair like this, wear these shoes, this, this, and that. And I can and I can do that, right? But I won't be me. I won't be me. At the end of the day, and I won't like myself. I feel like there's people out there that listen to what everybody else says and they don't they end up not liking themselves. Like, why do you want to live like that? You know, so that's why I like you guys here that are listening to me, because you want to relate, you know what I mean? You are actually here to listen to what I have to say, which is cool. Which is why I like social media. Even though, like, there's fake people, people that may seem like your friends, may seem like they're listening, like that commenter, and just are there to poke fun at you. But we gotta learn how to get around that. We gotta learn how to learn that it's there, we gotta learn how to handle it and deal with it. And um, okay, baby. My wife's on the couch over there. Ah man, but yeah. So I guess some takeaways is just do it in front of them. Continue to be you, continue to love yourself, continue to show yourself love and celebrate your wins. Celebrate, try to celebrate your wins. I know it's difficult for people like us, even because we're always constantly moving and wanting to work and get better and get better. And it's hard for us to just stop and look at how far we've come. So try to celebrate your wins. Uh, do it in front of them and enjoy it. Enjoy your enjoy life, enjoy your creativity, enjoy being you. But you guys have a good one. Thanks a lot for listening. Bye.